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Six years ago we had our twins, that made 4 wonderful girls. We both decided that we were done at that point, and when they gave my wife a cesarian they also tied her tubes. Now she wants to untie her tubes to have another baby. We have had much conflict over the last 12 months and been in counseling. I want to have another kid about as much as I want to stick a fork in my eye!

I just don't get it, its like what I want doesn't even matter as she is requesting her medical records to send to doctors, researching the internet and is ready to fly to Mexico to have it done by some world renown specialist? I am like HELLO ARE YOU EVEN LISTENING?

Just ranting I guess, but it seems like just when I start moving forward, we move 2 steps back in our reltaionship.

How many kids should I have?
 

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I would say 4 is the limit, although my ex-wife is one of 13.

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Wow, she really needs to consider your feelings on this. You've given her 4 children...she should respect your feelings on the operation as well as more children. It is a partnership afterall.

Good luck. You should seek counceling on this if she continues to ignore your plea for a discussion on the topic.
 

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As you know, much better than I do for sure, for a married couple, parenting is a two person decision and job. If both parties don't agree to have a child, what is that childs' life going to be like? How would it effect your other 4 children? It's none of my business, so I'm not asking for a response, but as a general question to think about, why does your wife really want to have another baby? Is there some alterior motive?

I don't have an answer for you. All I know is that my wife and I love our one and only son to death right now. But we both are in agreement that we will not have another child until both of us say it's time. It's a joint responsibility, so it should be a joint decision.

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Bit of advice. I suspect that the desire to have another child despite your feelings on the subject could well be hiding something else.

Counselling isn't always all it's cracked up to be. Sometimes you need to take five and find out what she's really missing in her life.

A woman that truly just wants more children would not push it to these lengths against the opinion of her husband.

Best of wishes and hope you guys get thing sorted out.

My fiancee wants me to build a Cobra before we have children. Just lucky I guess.
 

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Quit your job and tell her you were laid off, so you can't afford another kid. Don't worry about losing your income for a year or two, it will be cheaper in the long run.
It's estimated that a child will cost $300,000 from birth 'till they are out of the house.
Let's see, that's 25 FFR Cobras.
Only joking. Sit your wife down and listen to her about why she wants a child. Then ask her who she would prefer the father to be, 'cause it's not going to be you!!!
 

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Well - you could always get gelded and then have all the fun in trying for #5 :D

Honestly though - if you don't want any more kids, then what you have is quite sufficient.

Having a baby will rarely, if ever, make an ailing relationship into a good one..
 

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Originally posted by Big-Foot:
Well - you could always get gelded and then have all the fun in trying for #5 :D
Gelding won't work. Impregnating by the Mexicans is included in the reversal price.
 

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Who brings home the bacon? Kids are expensive. Five kids are CRAZY expensive. I'm hoping for just 2-3 when the time comes myself.

Also, you might point out to your wife that Mexico is far from world-reknowned for its doctors. It is, however, a great place to get your medical degree in a strip shopping center if you can't get admitted to a US school. :D

Cheers, John
 

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Tell her its fine as long as you aren't the father??? Man bud, I have no idea how to help you out on this one. What does your female marriage conselor say?? Women, don't even try to figure it out, I never let my guard down anymore, they will go off the deep end at least once in a life time.
 

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I told my wife that two per wife was my limit. So, the only way we could have more was she was going to have to let me bring another wife in.

The way I see it, you are already entitled to another wife as it is. If the first one wants more, you are going to have to bring two more wifes into the picture.
 

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Go off and get your tubes cut while you still have time!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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Originally posted by NAGA:
My brother, on the other hand, stopped at 4 because he heard that every 5th child born in the world is Chinese. Not that there's anything wrong with that! It's just that he and his wife don't speak Chinese and what would they have in common with the kid?
NAGA....this gets my personal vote for the best reply I've ever seen anywhere.

Joe....my wife and I have had an ongoing disagreement for at least 10 years. But I've sort of given her the option to get her way. In her case, it's a dog. She wants one, I don't. We have a standing agreement (and even my older boy knows about this...he's 8) that if she brings home a dog, I end up at the Porsche dealer and bring home whatever I want. But you gotta start early with that kind of "agreement" for it to become a deterant.

And no....bringing home a GT vert isn't the same!

good luck with the issue......maybe hide her passport.
 

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Jack...go get your wife a golden retriever, then go pick up your Carrera GT. Heck, even a stripped Boxster is worth stepping in some occasional dog poo for. :D A 911 is the best of both worlds...do it!

Cheers, John
 

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Joe, the simplest solution is for YOU to get a vasectomy. Your wife may have more children, but you won't.

It isn't that bad - I was sparring the next day. But I was sitting on an ice pack the day after that.... :D

All the best,
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